Look next-door is it a top-earning executive? Is it a nanny? Is it a chauffeur? No, it's Super Mom!
Can anyone really be a Super Mom? Well, no, of course not. We are only human after all. It's a delusion if you think you can juggle a full-time career, bake cookies from scratch for the local fundraiser, stay abreast of everyone's homework and attend every child's after school event in addition to having sparkling bathrooms and floors and folding and putting away all the laundry.
“There simply is not enough time in the day to be Wonder Mom”, said Tish, a Wisconsin single mother of a 10-year-old. ”We need to work full-time jobs, sometimes two jobs, plus take the kids here and there, cook, clean, manage the bills, etc.”
It's just too much pressure to expect to be a Super Mom. Don't let the outside world make you think that you have to do it all. That TV miracle mom is an imaginative creation and she does not exist.
ÛÏSociety defines Super Mom by having a full-time successful career. Having the kids in every sport or activity possible and providing (high-end) things for the child like iPods and brand-name clothes,Û said Stacy, mother of four in San Diego.
That's just not realistic. Instead, try changing your perception of what makes a mother ”super.”
ÛÏI think if a mother gives her children love, quality time, attention and guidance in life then she is a Wonder Mom,Û said Stacy. ÛÏI think these moms are harder and harder to come by because this world it too focused on your career. I don't believe your job makes you a better person and that also pulls away from what children really need, which is love, quality time, attention and life guidance.Û
DonÛªt stress about cleaning the floor when a child is begging for you to read a story. When a child is telling about what she learned in science, stop and look her in the eye. Let her know you are listening. Stopping what you are doing, even for a few minutes, can make a world of difference.
Your family will be no worse for the wear if the dishes do not get washed immediately. Once grown, your children wonÛªt reflect fondly how clean their house was growing up, or how coordinated outfits improved their lives, instead, they will recall the fun they had building sand castles, playing in the rain and flying a kite.
And donÛªt forget to make time for dates with your husband, and even some down time for yourself. ÛÏ(A mom) needs to take time for herself so she has that peace in her mind to give her children more of herself,Û Stacy said.
To free up some time, Tish suggested cutting back on some of the childrenÛªs activities. ÛÏThey donÛªt have to be in everything,Û she said. ÛÏMaybe seek out carpooling options with other parents (to make life a bit easier).Û
ItÛªs okay to have days that are extra-curricular-free. Homework and nightly reading can be enough to keep a household occupied.
ÛÏWe only have our children for about 18 years before the world gets them so we need to prepare them as best we can. We can't do those years over,Û said Stacy. ÛÏI try to ask myself this every day: Û÷Are you going to regret what you did or did not do today, tomorrow?ÛªÛ
So remember, even that classy mom down the street isnÛªt a Super Mom; her super woman suit bunches up and she has her achilles heel too. No person is perfect, and thankfully no one needs to be. Just take the time to enjoy your family and donÛªt sweat the rest. You and your children will be better for it.